It's fairly common for brides to put extra time and effort into looking their best on their wedding day including extra time into things like hair and makeup. And in most cases its fairly common for a bride to ask her bridesmaids to do the same. Or in some cases demand they spend the extra time looking their best.
But how do you ask your bridesmaids go that extra mile for your wedding day without seeming like a bridezilla? Like this!
1. Lay it out for them and tell them early! Tell them what you want as far as hair and makeup are concerned. Let them know the details like light eyeliner or if a half up half down hairstyle will work for the up do you expect them all to have. This will give them time to plan and collect ideas. You could even have a girls night with some wine and good music to finalized the details that way there is no confusion or "mishaps" on the morning of your wedding. Once things are finalized your bridesmaids can be prepared for the bill as well.
2. Yes! It is insulting to ask a bridesmaid to change how she looks. Ok, so its your wedding. Your big day. But- she is your friend for a reason, so why would you ask her to change for one day. Asking a friend, a bridesmaid to cover tattoos, change hair color, lose weight can hurt emotionally. But hey! It is your wedding. Just be cautious if you are planning to ask these of your bridesmaids.
3. Remember its ok to tell your bridesmaids how you want them to do hair and makeup on your wedding day, but it's not ok to tell them what to do in the days leading up to your wedding. IT IS considered rude to ask a bridesmaid not to cut her hair till after your wedding. IT IS considered rude to ask a bridesmaid to tan or not to tan leading up to your wedding.
4. The attention is on the bride. Keep that in mind! Your bridesmaids DO want to look best for your wedding. They realize they will be in photos, walking down the isle too, and part of toasts. Keep that in mind when trying to help plan her look. She needs to feel comfortable too. She will be looked at more than if she were just a guest at your wedding. If she is uncomfortable it will show.
Keep in mind that if you feel your guests will not like how one of your bridesmaids look then maybe its not the friend you should be changing. This is your day. You shouldn't think about what anyone cares about except maybe your future husband.
Your bridesmaids are there to be your friend and your support system.
They aren't there to make the wedding prettier.
They aren't your accessories.